Thursday, October 31, 2013

Pumpkin Bliss

I can't even say when I took these photos.  I went back in my albums to specifically locate one and discover I had a whole album of photos I never edited.  Where was my head?

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Drop Dead Fred

or Matilda?  Emma thinks she looks like Matilda with her new bangs and I think she looks like the child version of Elizabeth from Drop Dead Fred.

Just a little tease.  Hopefully I'll edit and post more of these photos over the next several days.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Paper Cranes

When we were at Pearl Harbor they were preparing for an exhibit which focused around origami cranes. 

Apparently there was a toddler girl who was in Hiroshima at the time the US dropped an atomic bomb in her hometown.  As a result she had leukemia.  At about 10 or 12 she started folding thousands of paper cranes as there was a Japanese tale which states you will get your wish if you fold 1000 cranes.  Since then Japan has seen the origami crane as a symbol of peace.  One of her original cranes has been sent to Pearl Harbor, apparently it is the size of a fingernail.  I loved the way they had them all strung together.

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Put a bow on it...

The final edited shots from San Antonio.  Time to go back and finish editing some Hawaii and hopefully have the chance to take some shots this weekend to start posting. 

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Dont Blink..

Don't blink. Don't even blink.  

Blink and you're dead.

They are fast.  Faster than you can believe.

  Don't turn your back, don't look away, and don't blink!
 Good luck.

Friday, October 25, 2013

Mission Accomplished

Well sort of.  We saw quite a few Missions down in San Antonio.  Beautiful.  The artisans who made this in such a poverty ridden land.   The churches, the missions, the art.  Really wonderful.

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Perspective Mine

noun: perspective
  1. 1.
    the art of drawing solid objects on a two-dimensional surface so as to give the right impression of their height, width, depth, and position in relation to each other when viewed from a particular point.
  2. 2.
    a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.
We went to dinner with a couple we have known for a dozen years.  We had never gone out with them as a couple before.  Had never socialized with them in that manner.  We always had common activities related to our children.  Always the fleeting thought that we should get together sometime, but never had.  All busy with different things.  We are all in the same boat and are relatively new empty nesters.  Tom's and I at the beginning of our 3rd year. 
You may think we should be used to it by now.  We have had plenty of time to adjust right?  No.  It's not like that.  Its very similar to becoming new parents. It takes a long time to get good at parenting.  To the point that it doesn't feel like a sham and that you are an imposter as the "Mother" of the house.  That it feels normal and right that these little people look to you to do things like feed and clothe and guide and nurture. 

This new life we have also takes time. Tom and I are good though, we have adjusted relatively well. We each have our own hobbies/ passions. We know what we like to do when we are together.  I think it's outside of ourselves we need to look at.  Our lives and what they will look like in the next 5 years?  Where will we live? What will our lives look like personally and socially?  Physically and in regards to family?  I think it's also like everything else.  You have to create the life you wish to live.  Friendships and social life take work and effort and time.   Tom is not great socially.  Never has been.  He would be just happy as can be to only be social with me and the kids.  It's worked for him in the past and he sees no need to change this.  I on the other hand will not abide by this. 
In the past socially we've picked and chosen from the adults surrounding the kids activities.  Hush, this is the way parenting works.  You become friends with other soccer parents and girl scout parents and PTA parents or whatever little Suzy or Johnny's thing is.  That's not saying that's not good.  Same minded folks and all.  Some friendships fade as the years go by and others fade as perhaps your in different positions now.  Wow, now the real grown up time comes and I get to pick my own friends?  I'm a big kid now huh?  

Tom whined all the way to dinner and was already preconceiving and mentally determining why our night needed to be cut short. Well, dinner with the couple was great.  Lot of laughs and shared camaraderie.  I knew the couple seemed like 'good people' but even I was surprised at how well we all got on. Good food, good drinks, good company.  Even Tom thought so.

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Church and Family

Again, I always have trouble choosing which shots to post,  so I end up posting different variations of the same thing.  I'll make friends and foe's with the following statement but I love and hate the Catholic church.

I love the reverence and tradition.  I love the beauty and art in those old churches, and the foundation of family that they foster.  I hate that the church finds themselves more important than Christianity itself.  I hate their closed minds.  I hate this creepy little black statue.

I've been too busy to think and evaluate things and life and beliefs and the future.  All those things that plague your thoughts in the carpool lane or after too many drinks with your girlfriends or at a kitchen table with your sisters.

I have however been thinking about the next phase of our family existence.  What will our new family structure with these adult children look like?

In all families and generations there is a tendency to repeat the past.  Follow the example set before you.  There are all kinds of negative things that could mean but it can also mean good and positive behaviors and traditions.  It was easier when the kids were young to know what healthy family relationships looked like not only from our experiences in our youth but heck even television had role models for families.  We could clearly decide how our family functioned- after all we were the boss.

For reasons I wont go into (another day/ another blogpost) Tom and I don't have great relationships with our extended family.  Don't get me wrong we love our siblings but just don't have a close relationship with them.  Relationships with cousins is non-existent. So now we have adult children and have not been great role models for how to foster those relationships.

So, what do we do? They are adults, maybe we let them forge their own path or maybe we as their parents continue to try to guide them and facilitate (control) those relationships.  Especially with each other.  They are adults but do we still get to be the head of our family (aka. the bosses)?  We have tried to lead by example in the past,  but in this situation we may be more  of the "do what I say not what I do types" .